neonatal death – The only man in the room

Thanks

My last blog was particularly sad. It was written with tears in my eyes. For both my own benefit, and perhaps yours, I wanted to follow it with something brighter. We all know that a crisis is the true measure of any friendship, and what is clear from our experience is that we have someContinue reading “Thanks”

Time of death

Tilly was born at 0056 on Saturday 26 May 2018. I’m sure you know that already. But I knew because they announce it, and they write it on the board. It also stops the giant clock on the wall. It is unambiguous. But the time of death is different. Less clear cut. They don’t actuallyContinue reading “Time of death”

It’s the little things

Charlotte and I have just had a relaxing break in Cornwall. Now we’ve returned, my thoughts have turned to my return to work. At the moment this feels a little daunting, but I know that this nervousness will subside. It’s the little things that are worrying me about my return. Things like: When I lastContinue reading “It’s the little things”

Knowing what to say

Since we found out about the pregnancy problems we faced, the support we have received has been brilliant. This ranges from the kind thoughts of friends to the care of the NHS. Following Tilly’s departure, we’ve also been pointed in the direction of organisations that support parents in our circumstances, such as Sands (the stillContinue reading “Knowing what to say”

My reading for Tilly

Tilly’s funeral on Friday was a success – if that’s the right word. To be honest, it’s hard to know what to say, and it’s hard to find the right word or phrase. ‘Went well’ doesn’t seem quite right, ‘nice’ and ‘happy’ don’t reflect the sadness of the event and ‘ok’ is too lacking inContinue reading “My reading for Tilly”

Happy Father’s Day

Today is Father’s Day. I won’t lie, beyond buying a card and arranging a gift for my dad, I didn’t think about it at all. However, I woke to a couple of messages from friends and family wishing me a happy day or telling me they were thinking of me. It was only at thisContinue reading “Happy Father’s Day”